tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post4611014452620430546..comments2023-10-19T03:40:40.815-04:00Comments on Go Knit In Your Hat: Please. Don't forget the condoms.Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07651035210994960810noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-64914863633372678652008-02-29T13:26:00.000-05:002008-02-29T13:26:00.000-05:00It's like you're seeing into my house. The suckmei...It's like you're seeing into my house. The suckmeister part of it is that my son is nearly 8 and can still do this Spawn of Satan behavior.<BR/><BR/>What helps me is to call my sister and inform her that I'm shipping a box with holes in it to her and she might want to open it right away and feed my son.Jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03231116607977696313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-20237376790654053862008-02-25T11:15:00.000-05:002008-02-25T11:15:00.000-05:00This happens all the time at my house. Kids get s...This happens all the time at my house. Kids get so overwhelmed by their emotions. THink of them having the same size emotion as us, but all contained in their little half size body/brain.<BR/>I highly recommend "The Happiest Toddler on the Block". I even use the techniques on my husband. Also, "Raising Your Spirited Child" and "The Out-of-Sync Child" because maybe there's some sensory dysfunctioning.<BR/>I think she's not listening to you because you're not listening to her. You don't empathize or acknowledge her feelings at all, or taught her how to deal with the emotions. Discipline means "To teach; to give life to learning". You're punishing, but not disciplining.<BR/>The first two books I mention will help you alot, and the kids don't even have to be able to read the cover :) I have three (all with speech delays, two with a developmental delay called Sensory Integration Dysfunction), and all three are very spirited.TracyKMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07498896222222982320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-3206280468170504682008-02-20T17:37:00.000-05:002008-02-20T17:37:00.000-05:00My first instinct is that something happened at sc...My first instinct is that something happened at school that must have set her off. My next thought is that she is going through a growth spurt and just feels out of sorts. Keep up with the consistency and perhaps give less attention to the tantrums...try to ignore them or walk away when they start. When I was a little one, my favorite thing to do was to "run away from home" all the way to the cow barn and to seek sympathy from my father because my mother was "so mean". My mother always told me to go ahead and run away...do you suppose that's the cause of all my insecurities? LOL Ah, the good old days.<BR/>Go knit something...it will calm you down. <BR/>BLogless Mary LouAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-47303457715037029652008-02-19T10:59:00.000-05:002008-02-19T10:59:00.000-05:00If this behavior is presistent, you might have her...If this behavior is presistent, you might have her tested. My daughter was the same and I just thought it was 'normal, stubbornness and anger', but it was ADD without hyperactivity and with explosive disorder. We didn't discover until she was 16 - wish we'd known way earlier and developed other strategies or medication to prevent this behavior from becoming lifelong. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-3859013666108903712008-02-19T01:17:00.000-05:002008-02-19T01:17:00.000-05:00OMG Your daughter and my son. The too tired thin...OMG Your daughter and my son. The too tired thing just GETS me, you know?woolywomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798060848062776281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-2698404041690526812008-02-18T21:59:00.000-05:002008-02-18T21:59:00.000-05:00I have a half day kindergarten girl as well. It's...I have a half day kindergarten girl as well. It's grey, cold and miserable out. Both kids have been sick off and on all fall and winter. DH was away for work for a month solid. My patience is gone. <BR/><BR/>I get "I hate you" and "your the best mommy ever" minutes apart. My kid is adopted so I also get "why did you buy me?" and "I wanted a Korean mother not a regular mother" and "I didn't ask for a mother".<BR/><BR/>At work you ask someone for a piece of paper and they actually hand you a piece of paper without throwing a hissy fit, declaring how unfair it is that they have to do everything ...<BR/><BR/>Just tired of being everyone's maid and whipping boy.<BR/><BR/>Did I mention that it is school vacation week ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-36202912169066982492008-02-18T21:34:00.000-05:002008-02-18T21:34:00.000-05:00The same thing happened to me on the same day the ...The same thing happened to me on the same day the credit card company was snarky about my lack of income because I am apparently a non-entity since I stay at home with my kids, and I read in a technical journal (I am a chartered accountant) that salaries have increased 47% in the last 3 years that I have been a stay at home mom. I felt for you even while I was laughing my ass off while reading your blog. Been there (just about 2 weeks ago, in fact), done that, no doubt will go through it again. Priceless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-82668356714239546132008-02-18T16:25:00.000-05:002008-02-18T16:25:00.000-05:00hahaha oh carol...if it's any consolation, give he...hahaha oh carol...if it's any consolation, give her 20 years and she'll laugh herself sick hearing these stories...i'm living proof of this effect! here's hoping you had a calmer weekend. :) gabriellagabriellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15329630099129219843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-48195252759885251802008-02-18T10:44:00.000-05:002008-02-18T10:44:00.000-05:00It's times like this that I thank the FSM that I d...It's times like this that I thank the FSM that I don't have children.<BR/><BR/>And then I sober up and remember that I do.<BR/><BR/>It gets better. Just try not to kill her for the next year or so and it evens out bigtime. I wouldn't lie to you about this. Everything else, yes, but not this.Rabbitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06666335853812810456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-52593971009202166162008-02-18T10:15:00.000-05:002008-02-18T10:15:00.000-05:00Please forgive me for laughing hysterically while ...Please forgive me for laughing hysterically while reading this. It was like I was reading a day from my life when my daughter was young (and not so young).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-68938816100220249212008-02-18T09:54:00.000-05:002008-02-18T09:54:00.000-05:00What was her counterpart doing during all this stu...What was her counterpart doing during all this sturm und drang?<BR/>Don't you have all day kindergarten?<BR/><BR/>We used to call middle daughter <BR/>"The Red Typhoon". Once, as we drove down the interstate, she chucked a shoe out the window. <BR/>MicheleneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-41070957683086357562008-02-18T09:25:00.000-05:002008-02-18T09:25:00.000-05:00If they'd only put all that energy into good inste...If they'd only put all that energy into good instead of evil .....Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10541095469969455692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-18507713428256482972008-02-17T23:00:00.000-05:002008-02-17T23:00:00.000-05:00Ah, girls. Wait until she's a teen. Same crap, onl...Ah, girls. Wait until she's a teen. Same crap, only she's moved to level 13~Not to woryy though, you'll be well on your way to level 12 by then ;-)Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18187303372682555817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-88081029634955102222008-02-17T19:17:00.000-05:002008-02-17T19:17:00.000-05:00I'm pretty sure we have the same kid. Only mine w...I'm pretty sure we have the same kid. Only mine wouldn't have gotten on the bus because she's scared the bus will leave her off somewhere other than school, such as the DMZ or Detroit.<BR/><BR/>I feel your pain, and I sympathize.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11510890512467594113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-27272983261010886032008-02-17T15:34:00.000-05:002008-02-17T15:34:00.000-05:00wait....were you at my house yesterday?wait....were you at my house yesterday?Meghannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04308411812090412081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-32644018091819666662008-02-17T11:37:00.000-05:002008-02-17T11:37:00.000-05:00This is one of the reasons I don't have kids. Alt...This is one of the reasons I don't have kids. Although I am amazed at you rability to write it down in a rational fashion. I would have lost it. completely.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07047009380102911866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-66098623852992335122008-02-16T22:29:00.000-05:002008-02-16T22:29:00.000-05:00Tantrums suck. They go away.Tantrums suck. They go away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-31250689013531159292008-02-16T15:27:00.000-05:002008-02-16T15:27:00.000-05:00Don't ever hug or hold her when she's like that.Im...Don't ever hug or hold her when she's like that.<BR/><BR/>Immediately isolate her. Having you as an "audience" and getting a rise out of you is part of what propels her behavior. <BR/><BR/>Isolate her in her room, or in a bathroom, until she quiets down. If she comes out and starts bitching again, isolate her again.<BR/><BR/>I have a five-year-old. When/if she starts to cry/complain for no reason I say "I understand you're upset. Please go to your room and get it out of your system. When you can act like a human being, you can come out."<BR/><BR/>Lather, rinse, repeat. The tantrums, I assure you, will stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-83776667898722430622008-02-16T13:46:00.000-05:002008-02-16T13:46:00.000-05:00Gee, the only difference between her and my #2 son...Gee, the only difference between her and my #2 son (now 25) is gender.<BR/>1. Stubborn...and when he was 10, and the local pusher tried to bully him into buying dope, he was too stubborn to give in and reported it to the cops.<BR/>2. Determined to do it his own way in his own time...learned to ride a bike in one afternoon, learned to skate when he hit the ice etc.<BR/><BR/>And so many other positive things, I can't name them.<BR/>This too shall pass.<BR/><BR/>That said, mine threw some awful fits..he would literally tear apart his bedroom, matress on the floor you name it. the most we could do was put him in his room, don't touch your toys till you want to behave (and to the spankers etc...tried that, didn't work) We found out that he was suffering not only from partial deafness, but chronic ear infections and sinus infections. The pain and the frustration of the two combined...the doctor said if I had those problems I'd be screaming in the corner. <BR/>The bean bag idea above is a good one...we punched pillows at our house.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-83248623596843198372008-02-16T13:40:00.000-05:002008-02-16T13:40:00.000-05:00Thank you for that post...it must be going around....Thank you for that post...it must be going around. It really helps to know that others have sometimes crazy kids no matter how well we follow the rules.Karyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07850621636279918257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-61322930809892829722008-02-16T07:09:00.000-05:002008-02-16T07:09:00.000-05:001. All less-than-desirable traits can be traced t...1. All less-than-desirable traits can be traced to the father's side.<BR/><BR/>2. Yet another reason to be grateful for the invention of alcohol.deirdrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10214294186588155117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-6262116901449977542008-02-15T22:19:00.000-05:002008-02-15T22:19:00.000-05:00god bless contraception.god bless contraception.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14225889318091653303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-22223408150774974842008-02-15T20:38:00.000-05:002008-02-15T20:38:00.000-05:00(wink wink) and this is why I have no human childr...(wink wink) and this is why I have no human children.<BR/><BR/>my cats would never do this to me.<BR/><BR/>poor carol - wine and fiber and charcoal bun-bun should ease your frustrations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-11251462137289832392008-02-15T20:33:00.000-05:002008-02-15T20:33:00.000-05:00Lovely writing Carol. My mother is fond of saying...Lovely writing Carol. My mother is fond of saying to me that many characteristics which are undesirable in small children turn out to be very attractive in adults. Look at the qualities she has, she's persistent, independent, and comes up with creative confrontation techniques, and is creative with her negotiating skills. <BR/><BR/>Are either of her parents litigators? <BR/><BR/>I don't know how you are meant to deal with these qualities in the un-moderated small child. I battle with them every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18710479.post-73818200212251625652008-02-15T19:44:00.000-05:002008-02-15T19:44:00.000-05:00Although I feel your pain, I still chuckle. She so...Although I feel your pain, I still chuckle. She sounds just like my middle daughter. Three kids.... three identical parenting techniques... three different reactions. My middle daughter is now 17 and is still very strong willed. <BR/><BR/>But the same determination and self absorption that makes her so hard to deal with at times, also manifests itself in a joy of life and giving to others that is unmatched by my other two children. She exhibits the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. And I can't imagine her any other way. I wish the same for your daughter as she grows up (and you!)<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you. (And a great big martini helps, too.)Bonnie O.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10337963671634796459noreply@blogger.com